I know it's been a while, but I'm still me and you're still you.
Let's talk as though no time has passed. It can be that way, right?
That's the testament of a true friendship. Time goes by but it feels like only yesterday.
So, yes. I'm back.
I know what you're thinking.
Why? Why now? You said you were done with this blog.
True. I did say that. But...
A girl can change her mind, right?
Here's the thing. All this time has given me something. Perspective. And two things happened last week that brought my new perspective into focus.
1. The numbers came out. 2010 was the biggest year for foreclosures. 1 million American homes were repossessed in 2010.
2. A friend who is finding it hard to hold onto their home reached out to me for advice and inspiration.
As I was writing my friend a long message providing what I hoped would be inspiration, it hit me. Just because our foreclosure story is now almost two years behind us doesn't mean that I can't still make a difference for others who are in foreclosure or teetering on the precipice today.
I said that I began this blog to make a difference by sharing our story. And I was passionately committed to that. The truth is, that commitment never ended. I'm still passionate about making a difference for people in financial distress.
Having come through to the other side has me even more passionate about that.
I know I said I didn't want our lives to be defined by foreclosure and that's part of the reason I "retired" LITTOF. But I see now that who we are today is so clearly defined by who we chose to be in the face of foreclosure. I think what I needed was just a long break. To just live. To have a baby and start a new blog and enjoy our new life on an island and gain some distance from the F-word.
I just really want to make a difference!
While responding to my friend in distress, I thought about the millions and millions of Americans in the same situation. I thought about the LITTOF readers that still sometimes e-mail me and ask for advice. And I just kept thinking about how I want to help. Somehow.
I know how easy it is to give into the despair. And I also know how important it is to rise above it. I don't have answers, but I do have a survivor's tale filled with inspiration. And by sharing that, by continuing to share that, I hope to spread some much needed hope.
Blogging with purpose
After retiring LITTOF, I started my new blog, Two Years on an Island. On that blog I wrote about life on a rural and very special island. Being pregnant. Giving birth. Mowing the lawn while seven months pregnant. That was a fun blog to write but ran its course when we moved from the island at the end of August.
Since then I've fiddled with the idea of starting another blog. Just to have a blog. But I don't want to blog just to blog. As a new mom who is still trying to be a playwright and non-fiction writer, I do not have that kind of time. If I'm going to blog, it must be with purpose.
So last week after getting the reality of the increasing scope of the foreclosure crisis and hearing how it's impacting someone I know, I finally got it.
If foreclosure insists on persisting, then I insist on loving. Or something like that.
Bottom line is, I'm not done yet.
All you need is love
This, in American history, is still the time of foreclosure and love is exactly what we need.
The title of this blog came from our personal story. How we managed to be more in love than ever before in the face of foreclosure. How our marriage benefited by how we approached our financial crisis.
But now I see the title as something beyond that. Actually, Bob helped me see it that way. When I told him that I was going to start blogging again at LITTOF and why, he totally got it. And he said:
"Now you can give love to others in foreclosure."
So that's what this is about. Putting love out there in the world via a little blog. Blog post by blog post, that is my intention.
As I said, I don't have answers.
I have only our experience.
And our commitment: to rise above our financial distress. And love above all else. Love as an action. As a commitment. As a way of being.
One last note. The tag line of this blog still applies.
"TWO PEOPLE DEEP IN DEBT, WORKING OUR WAY OUT AND HAPPIER THAN WE EVER HAVE BEEN."
Yes, we are still deep in debt.
Yes, we declared bankruptcy. But the "Big B" doesn't wipe out IRS debts or student loans.
So I will be sharing about that. About what we're doing to get out of debt. I'll share about parenthood through this lens. I will write about our experience in our third home in less than two years. And pretty much whatever else is on my mind. If you've been a follower of this blog, then you know what to expect.
What do I expect from you? Nothing. No expectations.
What would I like? Well, for you to share. Write to me. Ask me your questions, share your stories. Share this blog with someone who is facing foreclosure or worried about ending up there one day. I need your help to spread the love.
You can write me here: firstname.lastname@example.org
What do I intend? To make a difference. To provide a little inspiration. A little light in the darkness. Maybe even some humor. But most of all I want to get you to believe that it is possible to be happy, in fact happier than ever, even in the face of foreclosure.